It's not hard, it's just not what you're talented towards and what you absorbed as a child.
You can absolutely learn it, just like a people person can learn machine learning: Slower, methodically and with lots of repetition. And IMHO it's generally worth it even if you won't ever be a master. Nerds with social skills do have a superpower there.
I'm 39 now and I'd say by now I'm reasonably competent even though I'm a bit on the spectrum like most of us.
Here are the resources that taught me 80% of the basics taken together:
- How to win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie)
But by far the most important point for me was stop binge reading and actually put the books down every chapter, actually try the idea out before I came back for the next chapter.
Just showing up is half the battle. You'll get decent in no time, I started out almost a decade later ;-)
You can absolutely learn it, just like a people person can learn machine learning: Slower, methodically and with lots of repetition. And IMHO it's generally worth it even if you won't ever be a master. Nerds with social skills do have a superpower there.
I'm 39 now and I'd say by now I'm reasonably competent even though I'm a bit on the spectrum like most of us.
Here are the resources that taught me 80% of the basics taken together:
- How to win Friends and Influence People (Dale Carnegie)
- When I say no, I feel guilty
- Never eat alone (Keith Ferrazzi)
- Conversation Tactics (Patrick King)
- https://www.defmacro.org/2014/10/03/engman.html <- start here, biggest bang for the buck
But by far the most important point for me was stop binge reading and actually put the books down every chapter, actually try the idea out before I came back for the next chapter.
Just showing up is half the battle. You'll get decent in no time, I started out almost a decade later ;-)