I’ve found that it’s not just the photos but the writing and content on profiles.
It was surprising to me how many people had really poorly written profiles or just photos.
I’m guessing I’m a 4-5 but have matched with really attractive, and more importantly, very smart, successful, and interesting people. At first I was surprised but women tell me that many people on dating apps put in little effort or just can’t do basic things like carry a conversation beyond “hey” and “your [sic] beautiful.”
I find that the apps are useful for meeting lots of people in person and testing out chemistry. I’m not sure a better way to meet people IRL.
I’m in my 40s and only have my own experience so YMMV.
I’m curious how you knew half the women you met had an STI. Are you asking this?
OkCupid used to have a bunch of blog posts with numbers about how much a difference a good profile and good pictures make, but I think they took them down when Match bought them out. I haven't been on any dating sites in a few years but the amount of people with garbage profiles and bad pictures (lighting / posture being the biggest and easiest issues to fix) is crazy high.
OkCupid used to be the best because they actually tried to match you up on common interests and relevant dating questions. Last I heard that had been ripped out and it was just another tinder clone emphasizing photos and swiping. Should be a crime to ruin an app that useful.
The questions thing made it possible to see answers to dealbreakers before ever sending a message.
I met my current wife on OkCupid back in 2010. It was great. My big deal breakers were that I wanted a non-smoker that didn't want kids. OkCupid matched us at like 98%, and having now been together for 14 years, I'd say that match was pretty spot on.
last time I was on it, the questions had been de-emphasized and it seemed more like a tinder clone. hopefully a better version of it comes along someday, it's a valid idea (matches based on quizzes)
That’s extremely disappointing. The questions were both entertaining in and of themselves and also extremely helpful as a filtering and sorting mechanism. I don’t know why they’d want to de-emphasize or eliminate the best part of OKC. That’s what OKC used to be about!
I had a traumatic experience with it (ironic by context) not on online dating so yeah I have asked all women ever since. It is definitely tricky and requires tactfulness to talk about this early on.
It was surprising to me how many people had really poorly written profiles or just photos.
I’m guessing I’m a 4-5 but have matched with really attractive, and more importantly, very smart, successful, and interesting people. At first I was surprised but women tell me that many people on dating apps put in little effort or just can’t do basic things like carry a conversation beyond “hey” and “your [sic] beautiful.”
I find that the apps are useful for meeting lots of people in person and testing out chemistry. I’m not sure a better way to meet people IRL.
I’m in my 40s and only have my own experience so YMMV.
I’m curious how you knew half the women you met had an STI. Are you asking this?