While I certainly wouldn't object to how you handle merging cars (it's a nice, helpful thing to do!), I was always taught that if you want to merge into a lane, you are the sole person responsible for making that possible and making that safe. You need to get your speed and position right, and if you can't do that, you don't merge.
(That's for merging onto a highway from an entrance ramp, at least. If you're talking about a zipper merge due to a lane ending or a lane closure, sure, cooperation with other drivers is always the right thing to do.)
More Americans should go drive on the Autobahn. Everyone thinks the magic is “omg no speed limits!” which is neat but the really amazing thing is that NO ONE sits in the left hand lane and EVERYONE will let you merge immediately upon signaling.
It’s like a children’s book explanation of the nice things you can have (no speed limits) if everyone could just stop being such obscenely selfish people (like sitting in the left lane or preventing merges because of some weird “I need my car to be in front of their car” fixation).
At least in the northeast/east coast US there are still lots of old parkways without modern onramps, where moving over to let people merge is super helpful. Frequently these have bad visibility and limited room to accelerate if any at all, so doing it your way is not really possible.
For example:
I use this onramp fairly frequently. It’s rural and rarely has much traffic, but when there is you can get stuck for a while trying to get on because it’s hard to see the coming cars, and there’s not much room to accelerate (unless people move over, which they often do).
https://maps.app.goo.gl/ALt8UmJDzvn89uvM7?g_st=ic
Preemptively getting in the left lane before going under this bridge is a defensive safety maneuver I always make—being in the right lane nearly guarantees some amount of conflict with merging traffic.
I was taught that in every situation you should act as though you are the sole person responsible for making the interaction safe.
If you're the one merging? It's on you. If you're the one being merged into? Also you.
If you assume that every other driver has a malfunctioning vehicle or is driving irresponsibly then your odds of a crash go way down because you assume that they're going to try to merge incorrectly.
>cooperation with other drivers is always the right thing to do
Correct, including when the other driver may not have the strictly interpreted legal right of way. You don't know if their vehicle is malfunctioning, or if the driver is malfunctioning, or if they are being overly aggressive or distracted on their phone.
But most of the time, on an onramp to a highway, people on the highway in the lane that is being merged into need to be taking into account the potential conflicts due to people merging in from the acceleration lane. Acceleration lanes can be too short, other cars may not have the capability to accelerate quickly, other drivers may not be as confident, etc.
So while technically, the onus is on people merging in, a more realistic rule is to take turns whenever congestion appears, even if you have right of way.
> You need to get your speed and position right, and if you can't do that, you don't merge.
I agree, but my observation has been that the majority of drivers are absolutely trash at doing that and I'd rather they not crash into me, even if would be their fault.
Honestly I think Tesla's self-driving technology is long on marketing and short on performance, but it really helps their case that a lot of the competition is human drivers who are completely terrible at the job.
(That's for merging onto a highway from an entrance ramp, at least. If you're talking about a zipper merge due to a lane ending or a lane closure, sure, cooperation with other drivers is always the right thing to do.)