Are you stating that you believe that there is a direct 1:1 correlation between people talking in a civil manner and people being "all bullshit"?
Are you also stating that calling someone names when telling them they are wrong somehow adds credibility to opinion of the name-caller? What about political attack ads that spend all of their time smearing the person rather than their policies?
So, basically you might be talking bullshit here. There is NO correlation between being a verbal assh*le and being efficient. People can 'deliver' without insulting others. Linus is a high headed rude man, and there's no need for that. You can be straightforward and succinct without being insulting.
No. It's not wrong to not want to change them either. I like Linus. He delivers. Many people talk nice, but it's all bullshit.